Who Wears The Pants

Up until the 1960’s woman were held at a different standard in comparison to men, most especially in the workplace, during this period women often felt vulnerable, unidentified and not to mention mistreated, hence what most now refer to as the feminist movement was formed thus becoming a means of hope and change. I won’t elaborate to far into the details as this is not a lecture on economics however the feminist movement along with similar interest groups facing inequality ultimately pushed towards the civil rights act of 1964 preventing discrimination on all levels within the workplace.

Over the years this shift has created an interesting dynamic in society, now instead of women occupying around 30% of the workforce before the civil rights act, woman now consume around 50% of the workforce going neck-to-neck with men. As a result, women are now the breadwinners more than ever, and in many cases has become the primary decision maker when it comes to the finances and other critical factors within the household.

This shift in roles that man and women commonly occupied in both the workplace and at home can only lead one to wonder, who truly wears the pants in some of today’s relationships and marriages? On many levels this emancipation that woman experienced has led to a lack of compromise; women are now bringing more to the table therefore will tolerate less, while men are unwilling to relinquish the level of dominance and control he traditionally had which in a sense creates a bit of an imbalance and a constant battle between love, money, power and respect.

In reality men are intimidated by successful independent women because with her he has little to no control. When a man suggests a women stay home and upkeep the house instead of working, true this may be his way of treating her to a less stressful lifestyle and time to devote to childcare however, this could also be a way of maintaining control. Men strive off control since a lack thereof also results in a lack of confidence. By the same token, men have a tendency to settle with a woman who has little to no substance that he has some level of control over before settling with a woman with lots of substance whom he has no control over. This is certainly something to take into consideration when it comes to how a man chooses the woman he will ultimately settle with.

Equally important, it is unreasonable for a man to think of himself as the king of his domain and his wife as his servant. Both parties in a relationship should be valued and treated with respect. This doesn’t mean a man thinks of you as a servant if he asks you to prepare a meal one day, it’s those instances when a man excessively and blatantly require a women to accommodate and cater to his needs in a demeaning and condescending manner.

Ultimately, some men are attracted to feistiness while others prefer the cool calm and collected. nonetheless, one thing for sure, the “deserving man” desires a submissive woman who allows him to stand at the forefront of the union. Two dominant individuals in a relationship will always experience friction as a result of a constant power struggle; there has to be a submissive entity in the relationship in order for harmony to be present. In essence, as he treats her with love, respect, compassion and kindness, she provides wisdom, independence, and honor to mention but a few.

 

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