What Does He See In Her?

Have you ever seen a guy you found very attractive with a women you felt was far less attractive or wasn’t good enough for him and you wondered to yourself; what in the world does he see in her? What surprises you even more; she has his undivided attention. True it is natural for a man to desire a woman he sees for the first time and finds attractive; at the same time it has become more and more evident that physical attraction alone won’t hold a guy’s interest. Yes physical attraction may get him to approach you and initiate a conversation but more importantly what makes him stop and think at some point above and beyond all the physicality, “She is the one.”

Is it great sex? Perhaps, don’t get me wrong, sex is at the top of the list of priorities but it goes a bit further than that, the secret lies in how a woman makes a man feel when he is in her presence, whether physically, sexually or emotionally, which is what this blog will seek to explore. In some cases this is accomplished naturally when a couple has great chemistry and “Click” automatically but in other cases this is achieved by simply making the right moves.

Take for instance, every man has an ego whether big or small and it requires maintenance on a women’s part; I won’t get into the details about a man’s ego, this will be discussed in a later post but keep in mind, most women who’s men are head over heels in love with them, have certainly mastered this technique. Knowing how to stroke a man’s ego the right way at the right time can bring about astonishing results.

In addition, one of a man’s greatest desires in life is to be stress free, this is probably one of the most critical underlying factors leading up to the increase rate of divorces we have been experiencing in the recent years. For both men and women, if the person your with is constantly adding stress to your life beyond your threshold, you probably won’t stick around, because stress is toxic and added stress will certainly cause a man to walk away.

Also, security is very important to a man when it comes to “the one” he will ultimately settle with. She could be as beautiful as the sunset in France, on a warm summer day, if he feels she will embarrass him in public or in front of his friends and family members, he will eventually withdraw and lose interest. A man will draw closer to the woman he has a piece of mind with, so do your best not to come across as a flirt and untrustworthy. Flirting with other guys may get his attention but it will leave a bad taste in his mouth, flirting never really has a positive impact on a man unless he’s the one your flirting with, there are other ways to get a man’s attention and maintain your good image at the same time.

Lastly be mindful, unless he’s one of the rare guys that doesn’t want kids, he will also be evaluating you periodically as the potential mother of his kids. A mother figure is important to a man when searching for his soul-mate.  “First impressions last a lifetime” and his perception of you matters if he is the guy of your dreams.

 

 

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